For me the gay marriage issue is just a band aid for a severed head. It’s just a drop in the ocean and one small step toward the equality that gay people should be enjoying as a right and not just some afterthought. It really does have to be all or nothing including, pension rights, immigration rights, inheritance rights, the whole caboodle. Just allowing certain equal rights is not total equality it is just appeasement.
Civil partnerships are really just a cop out and clearly are just a way toward enabling society to make us feel included. I have to laugh when certain less informed individuals think gays wanna get married to mimic their heterosexual counterparts. It’s not about a piece of paper it’s about the right to choose how we live our lives and to be able to have the same rights and choices as everyone else.
It certainly doesn't help that in the U.S each state has there own laws and by laws and some federal laws supersede others. Let’s face it some states you are still allowed you to marry your cousin, as long as he’s not gay of course. The change needs to come from the top and although it may take a while to trickle down, surely this has to better than allowing a state by state decision. It sounds so crazy that some overpaid politician can decide who I can marry.
I can fight and die for my country but I can’t marry someone of the same sex. Go figure. Don’t even get me started on don't ask don't tell. We live in the most amazing most advance country on the planet but on some fundamental level we can’t seem to grasp the basic concept of equality. I am heartened by the Obama administration and its commitment to change and although I am frustrated by its pace, I trust in his ideology and process, but will continue to monitor action.
Those opposing gay marriage have some weird and wonderful reasoning for doing so, including it attacks the fabric of American society, I mean W.T.F? Marriage is between a man and a woman, Marriage is a sacred institution (and of course heterosexuals never breach that sacred bond) and the list of craziness goes on. Kathryn Rogers can marry a bigot, but I can’t marry a man now where’s the justice in that? I can no more change my attraction to men than she can change her attraction to bigots.
All joking aside the bigot in question makes no bones about his feelings on gay marriage, hence my frank response to his opinions. Limbaugh seems to hate everything and everybody. He says marriage is not a right it’s a responsibility which may explain why he does it so often. His anti gay jibes are clearly designed to provoke controversy which is even more startling as he says he believes people are gay from birth and have no choice in the matter. He says gays shouldn't be demonized in society by anyone, so why not shut your fat trap for a change then Limbaugh?
As an openly gay man I do not require anyone to legitimize my lifestyle or make me any more acceptable. However you dress up hatred it is still hatred and when your likes and dislikes affect my civil liberties then you risk my wrath. I do not hate you for disagreeing with me but I do feel I have a responsibility to educate you in the process. It is my right to live and to love whomever I please. Even religion shouldn't be a bar to gay marriage and the control it tries to exercise in this matter is nothing to do with God.
Gay marriage can and does work and has clearly worked in Europe. Denmark has had gay marriage rights for nearly 20 years. None of the arguments against gay marriage hold up to scrutiny. Faulty reasoning leads to fear and misconception and I wonder who’s rights they will try to take away next. It seems that Andrew Cuomo has pledged to make gay marriage a priority in New York State. He believes the legislature could approve a bill as soon as 2011. Gov. Paterson ordered recognition of gay marriages performed elsewhere however it seems several obstacles still remain, like joint tax filing etc.
Five states and one district (Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, New Hampshire and District of Columbia) have legalized same sex marriage to date. California did and then it was repealed with prop. 8. Some states offer Civil Partnerships but they do not include the same rights as heterosexual marriage. It really does have to be all or nothing equal rights across the board.
You don't pay fewer taxes as a gay person or pay less rent or even work less hard, and there is an urgent call for equality. Apparently the Coquille Indian Tribe in Oregon also grants same-sex marriage so maybe the answer is to avoid reservations by moving to one. The fight for equal marriage rights have been going on since the early 1970’s and even with the politically divisive sensitivities, I pray that common sense will eventually prevail.
Peace and Luv, Xan x